Dan, I am *so* stoked for you guys! I've had an amazing time being a "startup dad" for the past 2 years and I hope you have a similar experience!

There is a quote I've heard in many contexts now that I'll co-opt for my purposes here. It goes like this :

"The best parent in the world is the one having the most fun."

You guys, I've noticed, tend to have fun doing whatever you are doing, even waiting in line for taxing at SXSW. :-) Try to carry that over to parenting. Babies and newborns are like little sponges, incredibly sensitive and perceptive to their environments, so just remember the incredible influence you can have them just with a smile or laugh or your voice.

There will be moments that feel truly overwhelming and even a little desperate (it's pretty amazing how these beautiful little beings can quickly convince you that you are the worst parent ever with their various protests) but I have found that you just have try to laugh at yourself a little bit, don't get too wrapped up in negative feelings and *just keep moving forward* through whatever challenge you might be having. Really, these moments are few and far between, but I think the right attitude can make it easier to get through them.

I've also found that being a parent is an opportunity be a kid again yourself! It's amazing how you can be transported back in time by watching your little one. You'll find yourself really appreciating all of the things your parents did for you growing up. This feeling has been so intense for me that for father's day this year I made this for my own father :

http://www.heythanksdad.com

I guess I could go on for a while at a high level about all of it, but maybe we should do that over a beer!

A couple of specifics. The absolute best accessory we have is this backpack :

http://www.rei.com/product/810852/deuter-kid-comfort-ii-child-carrier

Orion *loves* being in this backpack and the places we can go with it. We live in a place that has amazing walking access to trails and parks and we take full advantage of that. So far I would say we average about 8 hours a week of just hiking around and trails and chilling out in parks, it's the best time ever. Just get one, use it, love it.

The other thing we have picked up (actually two of them now!) is this rocking recliner :

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B005RCMAU4/ref=oh_details_o08_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

*Super* comfortable with the kiddos for reading, feeding, napping. Ariel loves it because she can be very comfortable for feeding and then fall asleep right in the chair. You're going to spend a lot of time with the kids in arms, so it's worth making sure you have comfortable spots to be.

And of course, I have a couple of apps that are pretty much indispensable. Pandora is of course amazing and really great for the kids.

The best white noise app :

https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/white-noise/id289894882?mt=8

Orion really loves the whole Peekaboo series of apps, they are great, he has learned a ton of words from them. Peekaboo forest has beautiful artwork :

https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/peekaboo-forest/id389240936?mt=8

Alright man, that's enough for now, like I said, I could go on and on and on. But it's best done over a beer. We have a group of Dad's that get together every month or so for "Daddy Hours" so let me know when you are "ready" and we'll get in you the loop.

Cheers!

Jereme

Your children trust you completely.  Don't damage that trust.

Your children believe what you say.  Don't tell them things that damage their self-confidence.  Build them up with positive truths.

Your children see you as the person you wish you were.  Become that person.  Be good parents and good spouses. 

Teach your children by example - how to treat their spouses and their own children someday.

Never forget that each time you hold your child, tuck them into bed or read them a book is one less time that you'll get to do it - they grow up so fast.    

btw... my little girl is a Halloween baby too :)  Congrats to you and your family.

Hi, I just thought of one of the most striking things I read about fatherhood. It was in one of my fancy library books on Dads, and is based on true research and facts.

It said: "You (the father) will be the most influential male in your daughters life EVER. All of her thoughts, expectations, and future relationships with men will be based on your relationship with her."

When I read that it was a game changer on how I want to be around her.

Ask Chuck!

I asked Chuck. He said "Lots of gas. Babies love farts."

In all seriousness, I think to be a great parent, one of the biggest virtues is PATIENCE. Babies will test you for everything you have, and then some. You have to keep your cool. Especially when it's 4 a.m. an you've already been awakened 6x that night. :)

Parenthood is the best and will make you into an even greater version of yourself than you could have ever imagined :>

I've never been a dad but as a mom and daughter, I share this:

1. Be there. Money is important but time spent together is priceless (and you can never get it back).

2. Smile often. You are the most influential role model for your kid(s). When you smile, they smile. And isn't that the goal-- for them to be happy? [Rhetorical question]. Yes. ...Cheese! :>

3. Love unconditionally. Love is so powerful and can get you/them through nearly anything. Anything.

Cheers, to you and your wife! #bestadventureever!

--piecesofm/@mdesenna

You will be great and naturals at it. If you need anything or have questions or want to share/ vent, we are here for you.

I am sure we will all have some great new family times in our future. While you are prepping here are my tips.

Our best tips are:

1. Read -What to expect when you are expecting, Baby Wise, and watch the Happiest Baby on the block video before the baby is born.

They are helpful for just about everything.

2. This is old school but it really helped us. Go to the Library(yes the good old Dewey Decimal library).

Just spend a quiet hour in the baby section. You will see so many books that catch your eye and meet your style and needs for your baby.

It really helped us think of things we never would have just surfing the net.

3. We had a hard time with this one but it's so true. The baby is coming into your world, let them adapt to you and your style(within reason of course, no need to take baby clubbing...lol), Dont change your whole life for them. Balance is key. So is date night once a week.

We went on lockdown and its hard to get out of that mode now.

4.Roll with it and enjoy the moments, Its really hard to do when you have not slept in 2 days, but it helps to keep a light heart about it.

5. Change diapers....Enjoy!!!!!

• I am extremely hesitant to offer parenting advice...it's such a broad topic and there's so much to discuss...I had a parenting blog for 5 years and wasn't able to cover half of what I would have liked...additionally, I have found that giving parenting advice to a nonparent, can be like trying to explain how to ride a motorcycle cross country to someone who has never even ridden a bicycle. While you can imagine the experience and you have heard so many people speak of their motorcycle trips, and you can listen to everyone tell you what type of bike to choose and what region to travel, only you can make those decisions as you veer through every twist and turn, navigate gravel roads vs. paved, rainy rides vs. sunny ones...only you can decide what's right for you, what feels right, what feels comfortable and what is going to be the road you travel, so to speak. That said, I offer you at least this regarding the newborn and infancy stage (beyond three years old at this point is overkill, you'll get there later)...starting with the basics, and that is, the fact that you are knowledgable, intelligent, aware and have had your eyes open for the past 30someodd years, you have a basic framework for what it means to be a good parent. I say, roll with that. Start from the beginning and work your way up. Love that kid, love it to death. ENJOY that baby, even when she cries and screams, (and trust me, she will), because it all ends so quickly. Do what feels right to you even when your very best friend who is one of the top 10 pediatricians in the country, tells you she did it "that way" and that you should do it "that way" too. As long as you know you are doing what's best for that baby, and you are happy and that baby is happy, don't worry about what everyone else is doing and especially don't worry about what everyone else is telling you to do. Know that what works for you now, may not work in three months. Meaning, for example, you may love cosleeping for the first 3 months and then find it's not working so great. Don't be afraid to change because you had it in your mind it was going to be a certain way. Parenting is a constantly evolving process, and I'll even go so far as to say, what you do with one child may not work with the next. Finally, and I have already said way more than I ever planned, I cannot stress the importance of affection. I have no idea what yours and Sue's childhoods were like, if you were in very affectionate families or very cold ones. If affection isn't what you were used to, maybe it will seem strange, but hugging your kids and cuddling them and telling them how important they are and how special, and constantly telling them that you love them is so, so, so important. It's something all children truly need and you can't ever give them too much love and affection. It will make them more confident and secure and happy and I won't even state the obvious which is, a girl needs this from her father especially. I am sure this is more than you ever wanted to know...I will end now by saying that while some may disagree, I personally feel having kids was the most rewarding thing I have ever done in life, and I am so happy for you both that you are about to enter this wonderful, wonderful world. Congratulations and good luck...

First off, congrats guys! Get ready for the hardest, but most exciting time of your lives! As other people have said, you can read all you want about parenting, what to expect, how to sleep train, baby led weaning, etc. etc. However, nothing can prepare you for when that little bundle decides to make their appearance. Every baby is born with their own innate personality and you see their traits right away. You may think that you are going to be a "certain type of dad" prior to having that child, but it may all change once they are born. LIttle girls have a special bond with their fathers and no matter what you do, that little girl will always look at you like you are the greatest person on earth. So what does it take to be a great dad? Hmm.. patience, persistence, a good sense of humour, protectiveness, an ability to multi task, always making time for your little one no matter how busy life seems at that moment, a supporter, an encourager, a believer in their dreams, and last but not least, a great hugger! Hope that helps!

You guys will be awesome parents. That is one lucky kid!!

Sonia xoxoxo

(you can read my new mommy blog too: www.raisingmycub.wordpress.com) -> Sorry had to advertise it! Lol!